New Novel: Reparations Mind

This is the sequel to my first novel, “Reparations USA.”

Election Season, 2028. The War for Dignity has begun. The government is reeling after hackers took control of the massive database used by the Historical Reparations Administration. As panicked techno-refugees flood its gates, the rising Church of Modestianity offers sanctuary from the surveillance state. Facing an uncertain future, the cast of “Reparations USA” returns to discover that often the greatest doubts come from within.

From the corridors of power to inner city pain… From schoolyard lessons to the trappings of fame… “Reparations Mind” is the darkly comical journey into a world where virtue signaling has become the religion of an entire generation. Buckle up and prepare to dive in, because Philip Wyeth’s irreverent satire has belly laughs… touching moments… and even a prescient vision for the future!

You can purchase the book on Amazon (e-book or paperback) and Smashwords.

***And for a limited time, e-book of “Reparations USA” is available free on Smashwords.***

I Lost 40 Pounds Without Exercising – Part One: Exploring the Process

In June of 2016 I weighed 245 pounds. By March of 2017 I was down to 205 pounds. Since then I have not only maintained that weight but recently dropped to slightly below 200 pounds. I’m six feet tall, male, age 38.

And I lost the 40 pounds without frantically running, pumping iron, or any other formal exercise routine. Besides taking normal walks a couple times a week, the only outward change to my lifestyle was switching my work station to a stand-up desk.

The real difference maker was the series of small tweaks to what I ate and then sticking to the process over that initial eight-month period until I’d reached my goal. Now I want to to share what I’ve learned to help the people who are banging their heads against the wall trying to figure out how to lose weight.

LEARNING HOW TO EAT
Several people I know had used that phrase to explain their own dietary success. “I had to learn how to eat,” they said. But what does that really mean?! Even a term like “caloric deficit” is enough to make someone’s eyes glaze over.

So to keep it simple, think about when you accidentally cut your finger. Over the next week your body will initiate a process to heal that area without your having to think about it—because it knows what to do!

If you extend that logic to the rest of your body, and think about all the systems and processes at work in the background, surely the digesting of food is one of them. So what went wrong that so many people are overweight today?

First, we live in an era where there’s a glut of food. Every kind of food is available virtually year round and in portions much larger than in the past. Fruits used to be seasonal and smaller, so if you’re eating a large orange or apple each day and thinking that you’re doing the healthy thing, in truth you’re eating too much sugar. Yes, even though it comes in more natural form than processed cane sugar, it’s still too much. Take a baby step into better eating habits right now by chopping that apple in half or orange into quarters and eat the smaller portion each day.

GET OFF THE SHELF
Another major core concept which most people don’t think about but which is so easy to implement is focusing on eating pure, simple ingredients. The less processed the food you put into your mouth, the better. But this does not mean you have to eat bland, raw meals or not feel full!

Up until the first half of last century, humans mostly ate unadulterated food. Our bodies know how to process that stuff because it’s what we ate for thousands and thousands of years. So today it’s not just the overabundance of food that makes us fat, but the way it’s prepared. For example, shelf-stable vegetable oils which have been hydrogenated are not as easily digested as a traditionally cold-pressed olive oil. And what do you know, at the grocery store the corn oil is much cheaper than the olive oil, so is it any wonder that most people choose that?

Look at the ingredients list of pretty much any processed food at the grocery store. You’ll see all kinds of random ingredients that no one would think to use if making homemade versions of say, salsa or bread. Even foods that serve as treats, like cookies and cake, often have so much junk filler that the ingredients list reads like fine print on a warning label.

The biggest eye opener for me was jellies and jams back when I used to eat toast and bagels for breakfast. I found that virtually every brand had some sort of syrup, artificial preservative, coloring, or sugar added. The only brand that was simply made of fruit was a French one called St. Dalfour. Worst of all is those little Smuckers packets you see at diners—I kid you not, each tiny sliver has both corn syrup and high fructose corn syrup! It’s pure garbage and no one should eat it.

LET YOUR BODY DO WHAT IT KNOWS HOW TO DO
I will expand on these ideas throughout this series of articles, but for now let’s focus on this thought: your body will do the work to lose that excess weight if you don’t overload it with junk that interferes with its operating system. Here are three easy tips to start you on the road to steady weight loss:

1) Simplify your eggs: Instead of cooking an omelet in oil, hard boil those eggs. I also throw small mushrooms into the water and eat those with the eggs. Grind some sea salt on top for taste.

2) Cook your meals in bulk: It’s a lot easier to resist that temptation to grab fast food after a stressful day at work if you know that you have more healthy and filling prepared food sitting at home in the fridge. Even if you cut out only one fast food run per week, that’s 500-1000 extra bad calories you’re not forcing your body to deal with.

3) Avoid juicing and shakes: While I used to own a juicer and the veggie-heavy blends I made were helpful when I lost some weight in back 2014, in truth you really do want to be putting solid food into your stomach so it that takes time for your body to digest it. Otherwise those quickly absorbed nutrients will pass right through your system and you’ll likely feel hungry again too soon.

A GREAT RECIPE
Here’s the chicken recipe that has been part of my weight loss arsenal. I usually buy them in bulk packages of five, which saves me $1 per pound and ensures I that have a healthy dinner all week.

The chicken: Bone-in, skin-on breasts. You want the good fat that’s in the skin.
The marinade: In a mixing bowl add mustard, apple cider vinegar, pepper, salt, onion powder, garlic powder, and a dash of Italian seasoning. Stir the mixture, add the chicken, then cover the bowl and put it into the fridge for 15 minutes. Preheat your oven to bake at 350.

The secret weapon: Take the chicken out and place it onto a baking sheet, then sprinkle a healthy portion of Italian seasoning on top—this will bring out unbelievable flavor through the skin, which the mustard also makes semi-crispy. Depending on the size/weight of the breasts, cooking time is 50-55 minutes.

FINAL THOUGHT
If you’ve never successfully seen a weight loss project through to the end, the hardest part is believing that what you’re trying to do will work. All I can say is that sticking to it over the long term will get you better results than buying into some bold claims about losing a lot of weight in less than a month. Taking this patient but relentless approach will allow you to forgive yourself if you have a moment of weakness—plus once a week you should take a cheat day where it’s okay to eat some bad stuff.

But we’ll get into that and so much more in future articles. Thanks for reading and good luck. Remember, at times this road may feel lonely but it truly is well traveled, so keep the faith and stick it out to the end!

[The preceding article first appeared on Steemit on January 20, 2018.]

New Novel: Reparations USA

America, 2028. Reparations for the nation’s colonial past is the law of the land. A supercomputer processes historical documents to calculate each citizen’s Debit Score. This is the story of the people who live under the shadow of the Historical Reparations Administration.

“Reparations USA” is the shocking, inventive, and unpredictable future history of the United States that is filled with both heart and humor. Part action adventure, part ideology study, and part dystopian alarm call, this efficient novel takes you deep within the surveillance state where no deed—past or present—is innocent.

Philip Wyeth’s overwhelming vision creates an entire world within itself, and in taking inspiration from both satire and classic social commentary sci-fi, might even help readers better understand events taking place in the “current year.”

E-book available for purchase on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Kobo.

 

The White Man Asleep in the Black Man’s Yard

I wrote the first draft of this short story in 2005 but for years I felt the underlying premise was too absurd for readers to go along with. Now, thanks to the Social Justice Warrior plague it turns out that my twisted mind is actually a crystal ball!

But politics is merely the starting off point here. “The White Man Asleep in the Black Man’s Yard” is one of my most zany, dark, heartfelt, and even hopeful stories. Also included is an afterward which offers insights into the story’s history and stylistic influences.

Read it below or download the PDF free here.

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Featured Artist: Illdisposed

While it is a sad fact that most areas of life are not meritocracies, I find it particularly unnerving that in the heavy metal world—a genre that prides itself on defying conformity—fans are still susceptible to simply accepting what’s presented to them and not digging deeper.

This comes to mind as I ruminate about how low the bar seems to be set for extreme metal today. On the one hand, Meshuggah’s opus “Destroy Erase Improve” is already 20 years old, but today the whole Djent phenomenon continues unabated despite the fact its trademark low-end, percussive riffing style is a fairly simplistic device that would be more appropriate as part of a band’s arsenal and not its core songwriting element.

And then there’s the new crop of “post”-black metal bands like Deafheaven, loathsome Millennial hipsters whose main selling point is hype because they lack the serious musicianship and drive which birthed the sub-genre they now poorly emulate. That this band’s wishy-washy take on a once extremely potent movement could garner nationwide tours boggles my mind—the bland atmospheres they create simply exist with no sense of development before awkwardly transitioning into tedious shoegaze sections where the guitarist’s lack of chops is woefully apparent; and the vocalist’s monotone screams express none of the personality, urgency, or purpose found in songs like Impaled Nazarene’s classic “I Al Purg Vonpo” or “Schatten Aus Der Alexander Welt” by Bethlehem.

It is from this frustrated place that I think back on a time when exploring the dark corners of extreme metal almost always led you to a new band that was putting its own personal stamp on the form. I don’t know if the change stems from the fact that before everything went online and digital, when the old industry hierarchies and cost of actual tape made fostering real talent a logistical imperative, but back then if something crossed your path it had probably entered the zeitgeist for a reason.

Further, before you could run to an internet safe space every time you had a depressed feeling, and before you could post every new riff on YouTube 5 minutes after you wrote it, bands and scenes had the time and space to develop a meaningful identity, and only then were they ready to present themselves to the world.

The Swedish and Florida death metal scenes immediately come to mind, but just across the water from Stockholm something very important was also brewing in Denmark. Supported by the mighty Progress Red Labels young bands like Konkhra, Dominus, and Mercenary were carving out a sound exemplified by massive drum production, overwhelming death growls, and sophisticated guitar work that balanced unorthodox riffing with flowing song structures.

Illdisposed - Four Depressive Seasons

Mightiest of all was Illdisposed, whose incomparable 1993 debut “Four Depressive Seasons” is a truly dark and oppressive experience. The 9 songs sit atop a crisp drum production rich with reverb, and Michael Enevoldsen’s performance sounds almost like a live mixing-board recording as the double-bass and toms roar out to pummel the listener. This clarity is crucial in ensuring that the real carnage does not get lost in the shuffle as Bo Summer’s gruff, double-tracked “subwoofer” vocals sweep over the listener like a howling windstorm.

Cementing this grim death metal display as a classic is the churning guitar work of Lasse D.R. Bak, who possesses a seemingly endless supply of catchy mid-paced riffs which move steadily forward via clever breaks and momentous transitions, all topped off by his tasteful implementation of melodic solos played with confident feeling.


This deft balancing act between elements both brutal and refined is why “Four Depressive Seasons” embodies that crucial distinction between playing “death metal with melody” and the more cliche “melodic death metal.” For all the hundreds of bands who took the easy way out by copying the simplest aspects of the bouncy-riff style trademarked by At the Gates and In Flames, Illdisposed stands as a monument incriminating their dereliction of duty both as musicians and students of the genre.

Not wasting any time, a year later the band unleashed the simply ruthless “Return from Tomorrow” EP. With guitars that hinted at a Bolt Thrower influence and Summer’s inclusion of a disturbing new wail that merges John Tardy with Martin van Drunen, these grimy 7 songs were not to be ignored as they showed Illdisposed increasing in lethality as it stripped down in structure. In the title track a furious escape from the brooding middle section gives a tasteful nod to Entombed’s “Sinners Bleed,” while “Withering Teardrops” shows the band’s prowess in unconventionally using female vocals to evoke a feeling of deeper depression rather than any hope for romance.
Illdisposed - SubmitThis sharpening of the elements was perfected on their last truly significant release, 1995’s “Submit.” Featuring new drummer Rolf Rognvard Hansen and a drier, more intimate sound, this album simply buries you under the massive weight of the deeply down-tuned guitars and Summer’s enveloping trademark woof. Newfound elements of groove and even tasteful hints of NY-style hardcore death metal find balance with Illdisposed’s uncompromising commitment to heaviness as relentless mid-paced passages grind forward, with the occasional well-placed lead thrown in to counter the oppressive feelings that build up in the listener.

Highlights here include the back-to-back punch of “Memories Expanded” and “Slow Death Factory,” the former being an utterly crushing mosh pit anthem that crescendos with a plaintive guitar solo, the latter a rollicking affair that even dishes out some manic acoustic guitar, sounding like a gypsy strumming furiously before his unwashed relatives. Haunting album closer “Die Kingdom” is some sort of wicked amalgamation of the Benedictine Monks and Napalm Death’s “Plague Rages”—a fittingly disturbing end to Illdisposed’s unforgettable early years!


Follow-up albums “There’s Something Rotten in the State of Denmark” and “Kokaiinum” each had their charming moments but it wasn’t until 2004’s “1-800-Vindication” that the band found top form again as they delivered a modern-sounding but still potent performance, highlighted by the passionate “In Search of Souls.” In my opinion, subsequent releases have been a bit formulaic but this takes nothing away from the debt death metal fans owe Illdisposed for their pioneering early work.

Featured Song: Voyager by Symbyosis

As a little change of pace I thought I would start a new column that delves into some brief musical commentary highlighting exemplary work by some of my favorite bands. It’s been 15 years since I put my underground metal zine to bed so let’s see what happens…

Hailing from France and spearheaded by brothers Frank Kobolt and Corrosive Bob, Symbyosis burst onto the metal scene in 2000 with a truly visionary piece of extreme metal on their debut album “Crisis.” Elements of progressive metal and epic guitar solos by Kobolt turn to the dark side as death metal blast beats and Bob’s harsh rasps entwine the whole into a compelling work that despite its contrasts always maintains its musicality and intelligence.

Before their final double-album “On the Wings of Phoenix” was released in 2005 the group honed their skills on 2002’s breathtaking “Life is a Phoenix” EP and the virtually unknown 2001 “Voyager” single. I explore that 7-minute epic today.

First, download the “Voyager” MP3 from the band’s website here as a reference.

From the outset all the classic Symbyosis elements are here: a hint of mechanized riffing and drums driving the pace, tasteful keyboards providing support beneath, then off into precise and showy lead work from Kobolt that retains purpose and forward motion throughout. An atmospheric bridge allows us to catch our breath before a glorious moment is achieved as both groove and warmth soar into a payoff from 3:50-4:25 that’s like watching a majestic dawn on a silent morning.

But we’re only halfway through the song now and if you can keep up with the relentless creativity you soon find yourself in an ever-changing swirl of percussive riffs, aggressive barks, counterpoint lead layers, and finally the band’s first delicate use of female vocals that would figure prominently in later songs. But this is only another interlude before Kobolt brings us home with his final flourish laid on top of a damn catchy syncopated rhythm guitar part. His confidence as a player and joy as a composer are on full display at the 6:18 mark where he picks apart his fretboard like a veteran marksman taking out easy targets for show.

An adventurous and truly fulfilling piece, “Voyager” is a prime example of everything that is right about extreme metal, a genre that has sadly strayed from its unwritten charter of creativity without rules into just another business, where the bands are brands and merch sales figures must meet expectations.

Because today’s big bands like Amon Amarth and Opeth just phone it in album after album—themselves having lost the fiery inspiration that once put them on the map with groundbreaking albums like “Once Sent from the Golden Hall” and “Orchid,” respectively—I decided to write this column as an antidote to such blind reverence for mass-marketed mediocrity.

Back before the internet you had to do a lot of work to track down that obscure band from Finland that was doing something different, and you were silently allied with thousands of other likeminded guys on the same quest. Access to YouTube has allowed today’s younger generation of metalheads to quickly take a survey of the early death and black metal scenes that once took my generation years to experience. I absolutely do not begrudge this development, but I do believe the spirit has been lost in the change of venue away from the careful and passionate discovery process involving underground radio programs and fanzines.

So to hell with incorrigibly boring bands like Lamb of God, turd factory extraordinaire and purveyor shoddy guitar tones! There are a lot of amazing metal bands out there who never quite hit the global radar and I hope to recognize some of their artistic achievements here in this column.

Exhibit A: Symbyosis. Verdict: Life sentence in my collection!

A World Turned Upside Down

Earlier this week Turner Classic Movies aired a long lost Rainer Werner Fassbinder sci-fi movie from 1973 called “World on a Wire.” Both surreal and chilling, the stylized production contrasts dreary landscapes with the era’s bright mod interiors in a visual display reminiscent of “A Clockwork Orange.” Filmed in an almost melodramatic style which utilizes still shots that rotate from an actor’s face to his mirror reflection across the room, the plot involves a state-run German laboratory that has created a virtual reality world inhabited by 10,000 “people” who do not know that they don’t actually exist. At the start of this 3-hour epic, the project head has a mental breakdown and tells an associate that he knows a secret that could bring an end to the world. Moments later he dies mysteriously and for the rest of the film we follow his successor’s attempts to make sense of it all.

Without spoiling any of the film’s revelations let me simply express the profound sense of peace and rightness within myself I felt in response to not only the ending but the fair and truthful way it all played out. Fassbinder lets the story develop naturally by having his characters react to events as normal people would, and not once does he reach into Hollywood’s bag of tricks for a silly one-liner, cheap sentimentality, or an impossible escape.

It was this realization that shook me to my core: for how long have the machinators in Los Angeles, New York, and Washington been doing the exact opposite and painting a false portrait of life and in the process robbed us of any potential for a bona fide culture? Today’s major motion pictures are all either plotless spectacles of action and explosions or crude comedies where despicable characters are championed and straight men serve as the ultimate rube, out-of-touch bumblers while everyone else who have it all together—especially their perfectly balanced wives—patiently put up with their clueless behavior.

The once great tradition of television dramas has given way to the banality of reality TV, where everyday nothings are given a worldwide platform to influence others with their bad manners and disgusting eating habits. To think that the torch that had been passed down from the days of “The Twilight Zone” to “The Jeffersons” to “Law & Order” and beyond might be lost is truly a crime against the writer’s craft from which it may never recover. Perhaps cable shows like “The Wire” and “Breaking Bad” have filled the void but I can’t help but think that presenting the raw brutality of daily life without that uplifting separation the artistic touch creates, could in the end only accelerate our cultural decline as people not only lose their stigma toward hard drugs but embrace the trashy accoutrements of the lifestyles portrayed. It seems like a thousand years ago that Americans wore suits to baseball games.

Returning to my main point, in that moment of peaceful calm after finishing “World on a Wire” I realized just how tense life in America is right now and the fact that it stems from everything being flipped upside down. What do I mean? Manufactured evidence for wars cooked up by military brass, run up the flagpole by Democrats and Republicans alike, then endlessly parroted by sexy or wise-looking network teleprompter readers. Fabricated employment and economic data that months later are revised almost exclusively into the negative. Political correctness gone pathological in its zeal to right every wrong attributed to the patriarchy—could it be that the dramatic rise in autism amongst white children in recent years stems from the cognitive dissonance caused by not being allowed to speak truthfully of the reality they perceive? (“I’m not a doctor but I play one on TV.”)

Amidst this sickening backdrop of cultural and political rot, across the nation something big is happening to the Leftist vanguard that was once so optimistic after it helped usher in the changing of the guard that was the 2008 election. Coupled with time winding down on President Obama’s second term is their disappointment at his administration’s doubling down on Bush-era policies of warmongering and surveillance, plus the perceived lassitude in pursuing goals for social issues such as gay marriage, amnesty for illegal aliens, and in rectifying the comically botched Affordable Care Act rollout.

Disillusioned and in a race against the clock, the increasingly frantic and zealous Leftist Street Team has gone deaf to even reasonable opposition and appears on a collision course with destiny: can their ideas reach critical mass before Obama leaves office in January 2017? Will they be able to achieve their social engineering dreams? Can they destroy capitalism’s “exploitative” hierarchical workflow…or at least install enough minority and female CEOs to make things “fair”? How many million poor foreigners crossing our border illegally must we bankrupt ourselves accommodating to satiate their own sense of guilt?

Those of us who for the past several years have felt the vise grip tighten around our heads have not been wrong. We are not the crazy ones—it’s the world around us that is going mad in a bizarre play of feel-good fascism whose naiveté would be charming were such shortsightedness and historical ignorance not sure to get so many people killed. Perhaps deep down these Leftists know a major backlash against the ravages of Cultural Marxism is on the horizon and so they simply must wreck things beyond the point of resistance and restoration.

The next two-and-a-half years look to be the most dramatic and treacherous we have faced since Whatever Actually Happened on 9/11 ushered in the hysterical, paranoid, and ever-constricting existence we now call reality. What can we do? First, get ourselves healthy and look after the people we care about. Next, noncompliance and nonparticipation in as much of the bureaucratic make-work that wastes so much time and clogs our mental bandwidth. And if forced to engage a Leftist in debate, hold them by the hand as you gently subject their flawed ideas to a line of questioning in the Socratic method. Be sure not let them get away when they scream, “But, but, but!!!”

For the more serious, large-scale events like the war our Axis of Mind Control is trying to start against Russia or the next mass shooting false flag in pursuit of more gun control, the good news is that there are perhaps several million citizen journalists who have cut their teeth over the past few years using social media platforms like YouTube, Facebook, and WordPress to do the gritty investigations paid media once took pride in.

When I think about how in 1995 the whole country believed Timothy McVeigh used a truck bomb to blow up a building in Oklahoma City, to how it took a few years for 9/11 conspiracy theories to go mainstream, to the first stabs at debunking the “official story” in real time after the 2005 London bombings, to finally the immediate obliteration of the Sandy Hook lies in 2012—I take heart. Not only have millions of us lost all trust in what our government and media say, we wouldn’t put it past them to do us physical harm.

We’re on our own as the final act approaches. See you in the trenches!

Impossible Dreams

[Originally written in May of 2010 then promptly forgotten as my life got very busy playing in a new band. An inauspicious move from LA to Portland in 2012 kept my writing on the backburner for a while, and only today did I rediscover this piece. After four years it’s still pretty darn spot on!]

As I stand in line at the drug store, the blond supermodel on the cover of this year’s Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue looks out at me from some perfect beach and makes the same impossible promise Elle MacPherson did many years ago, when as an eight-year-old sports card collecting SI subscriber I came home from school one day to find not a baseball or football star on the cover, but the ravishing Aussie absently trying to rip off her one-piece navy bathing suit as she stared into the camera.

That profound moment of sexual awareness was not the first time my young mind had been infiltrated by a powerful outside force, because I was just one of the millions of media crack babies growing up in the early 80s held captive by what the entertainment industry’s best minds cooked up. From the glamorous party lifestyle in MTV rock videos to know-it-all brats who sanctioned rebellion in sitcoms, our worldview has been so manipulated and poisoned that it is no wonder many of us now find ourselves at thirty infantilized, holding unrealistic expectations, and overly excited about the latest Predator movie sequel.

We’ve tried playing at being adult, maybe got a master’s degree or worked for a non-profit organization, some of us even got married for a few years. But for our generation the simple routine of keeping a town functioning is not enough because we bought into the media-driven vision for what life should be, of beautiful people on the go having it all and things just working out in the end. But it’s a hard fox to chase, and sometimes all it takes is a speed bump rather than a fall to knock you out of the race—and then every game-winning touchdown on TV makes you sick with longing for what should have been your own moment in the spotlight.

I think of my own entrapment now with a bitterness I barely dare let myself indulge considering how much it may have cost me. Once at age six while on a family shopping outing I had put an important Star Wars figure into the shopping cart, but my three-year-old sister, who was sitting in the cart’s child seat and not even knowing what she was doing, threw it onto the floor. None of us saw her do it and when we got home I discovered that the toy wasn’t there, then made my dad drive all the way back to the store but he couldn’t find the exact one and bought me another instead. I was furious and resented my sister for it forever…because already I had cast my lot with Star Wars over my own family.

But it’s not a two-way street, you must give of yourself more and more, and when I see grown men dressed up in costumes at Star Wars conventions I thank God that even though I was not the son and brother I should have been, I’m not too far gone, I can still make an effort now.

In my own flaws I see a societal sickness, and with this small bit of lucidity I must take on the sacred role of witness and see the tragedy for what it is: a nation of incomplete souls, unworthy of their affluence and unable to pull themselves away from the buffet long enough even to procreate to keep the country alive. How can the beautiful girls I knew at age 14, the ones who had the boyfriends and wouldn’t give me a second thought, when I see them now on Facebook at age 31 still unmarried and childless, I wonder how after all these years of dating and vacations and fun, they still haven’t had enough? What a reflection of the state of our nation that its young women find their most natural and important role undesirable.

Meanwhile two other girls I knew, one of Arab descent and the other Greek, both married in their early twenties and now have several kids. I’ve seen photos of their beautiful families and even in my DNA I felt the righteous truth. But it seems that for most white Americans, our European ancestors gave up their entire cultural heritage in trade for the materialistic American Dream, but nothing exists to fill the spiritual void.

It’s as if we’ve substituted obsessions for spirituality and intimacy—obsession for sports, for politics, for celebrities—and now with the internet and a thousand TV channels there’s much more involved than when it was just about watching the game and the presidential debates. Now we watch the NFL draft, we wheel and deal the players on our own fantasy team, we watch celebrity poker, we watch pundits argue about a governor’s infidelities, on and on, anything to keep us from ever finding ourselves sitting in silence with our thoughts—because then we would hear our souls screaming in despair, “For all the human suffering throughout the ages, you’re lucky enough to live in a place with all this opportunity, yet you spend your time reading a website about what clothes a singer wore to a party you weren’t even invited to?!”

I see this all as a confession of my own guilt as well. I too have indulged in the orgy of distraction even when I was old enough to know better. The dawning realization of how empty we all are is sickening. This addiction to media and its filtered worldview, be it the soon-forgotten news of the day to even my craving for great books and films, ultimately it is escapism from real life with its mundane tasks and flawed people. We’ve got to find a balance between pursuing this desire to get distilled experience through art and being present for your own life, however painful it may be to accept that doing the dishes at home in sweatpants is more in touch with reality than the androgynous people dancing all over each other in your favorite pop music video.

It’s hard to resist the pull of that other kind of life, which is so easy to turn on and off without consequences whereas raising kids to be real humans demands patience, endurance, standards, being judgmental. And our generation doesn’t want to judge, we grew up watching “We are the World,” we were taught that we’re all the same, that we can help all the poor people far away, not that it’s human nature to scheme and invade and take care of your own. Yet in cloaking our selfishness in self-righteousness we actually prove the point—when tsunamis and earthquakes ravage Third World countries, we buy plastic wristbands and say we helped with the recovery.

I think now of my own entrapment by the media fantasy world, how as a very young child this sealed my fate of not connecting with people and in the end it drew me to the heart of the dream factory, Los Angeles. It’s as if because the comedy shows and CDs and porno magazines got me through the loneliness and confusion of the high school years, I had to come to LA to find tangible fulfillment of the promises or at least to repay the debt by working for the machine.

But something in me revolted against the plan, it wasn’t enough for me to be an extra on the sitcoms, I balked when I started doing stand-up comedy and later found myself writing a script “perfect” for Will Farrell and Andy Dick. Every time I entered the gates of a castle I thought I wanted to inhabit my stomach tightened and I made a move toward self-destruction to get out of there.

Each of these episodes was followed by many months of aimless isolation at the shock of discovering that yet another dream come true had left me empty. The feelings of doubt and failure were paralyzing, and as has always been the case I was unable to communicate this frustration to anyone—and Star Wars wasn’t listening. In the back of my mind I have always thought of myself as a seeker of wisdom and truth destined for great things, and now I look upon these moments of defeat as part of the necessary cleansing to rid me of my pop culture conditioning.

Several years ago my friend worked for Playboy Radio and I accompanied him to Las Vegas when they went to broadcast at the porn convention. Having come of age before the internet made porn easily accessible and you got your kicks from magazines and the occasional VHS tape, this world still held some mystique for me and I was curious to see what it would be like to actually meet one of these performers. While I did speak to one mindless petite blond the memory that stays with me the most is when I saw a middle-aged man running down the aisle with his camera bag—in a flash my mind said, “What are you doing here? You should be back home chasing your son down the soccer field sidelines with that camera!”

But is he really any different from all of us with our fantasy baseball teams and tabloid subscriptions and Sundays spent watching golf on the couch? And what about all the purposeless travel, flying halfway around the world to pose for a photo op in front of a piece of architecture whose history and meaning we are completely ignorant about? And the hedonistic indulgence, the plastic surgeries, vanity waving a scalpel in defiance of aging gracefully—all of us evading the necessity of living local, at a slow pace, without dishonesty or fear.

I’ve wondered if we affluent ones are somehow the vanguard of a transcendent new level of man or if the rich of every era rationalize their sick arrogance in this way. This new breed we have become, is it the proof of a nothing culture or are we striving for the crowning creative achievement in order to leave some sort of digital pyramid in our wake instead of just perpetuating the species? When I think about how we finally conquered the oceans and use this triumph to load cargo ships full of Barbie dolls made in Chinese factories because it’s cheaper, I think I know the answer.

Back in 2006 I was in Virginia for a friend’s wedding and one day as I was driving through a park I saw a young Indian couple—the man in checked shirt tucked into blue jeans, the woman with Hindu shawl over her head—playing badminton with each other, and it struck me how most of us savvy Americans would scoff at this beautiful scene, so afraid we are of being vulnerable while having fun playing a silly game.

We are a dying breed, we who have tasted the fruits of comfortable modern life and are bored—that which has always sustained men no longer interests us. We eschew the imperfections of a real life community for the virtual worlds online, we zone out with headphones at the gym and on the train, each the little king of his own mental island.

And for the few of us who try to break free, the cost is eternal vigilance. Recently even I got all wrapped up watching my hometown hockey team, they’d had the best record all season and were favored to win the Stanley Cup. But they lost in the first round of the playoffs and at the end of that awful game 7 I sat in a drunken stupor, my heart sick for a team I hadn’t even followed in ten years…when bounding out of the bedroom came my two cats, purring with love and ready to play.

We must find the strength to not let the sight of a team logo on football helmet elicit a too-deep emotional response. We must not fall in love with the air-brushed and Botoxed celebrity-model-actress creatures that litter our airwaves and newsstands. We must stop chasing all of the meticulously engineered dreams that leave us exhausted, broke, and unsatisfied. Somehow we’ve got to be happy with who we are and what we have, otherwise we’re going to lose the last of what little humanity we still have left.